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Thirty minutes. That’s how long it took me to conceive. But it took me 30 years to believe what I received. When the Spirit of God spoke to my heart, I was driving home from work. Listening to love songs by Bebe and CeCe Winans, God, the Lover said to me,

 

“I wish you would let me love on you like that!”

 

After the foreplay was over, and a metaphorical nine months of carrying REAL seed, there it was – God’s brilliant birthing and my breakthrough to greater!

 

GREATER LIFE. GREATER LOVE. GREATER ADVENTURE.

 

Especially for adult women AND the men that love them, this is an overview and exploration tool, a coaching workbook designed to guide you through concepts that I have used to become spiritually pregnant and to conceive every single time – getting pregnant on purpose!

 

Whether you are birthing:

 

• A Baby,
• A Boo (a relationship),
• A Business, or
• A Book,

 

God doesn’t give accidental blessings.

 

His blessings are all about PURPOSE.

 

During this time of unprecedented trial, challenge, and change, there’s still no better time than the present to conceive God’s brilliant plan and purpose for your life!

 

Single individuals and married couples will want to explore each exercise in this workbook! Watch what happens as you yield yourself to God!

 

 

 

 

Are You Pregnant? Trying to Get Pregnant? At-risk? Or About to Deliver?

 

At a time when many couples are not trying to get pregnant, why would God be speaking about becoming Pregnant on Purpose?

 

Look around you. How many love-starved people do you see?

 

Men and women are still looking for love, especially now. When COVID-19 was publicized, online dating increased and caught aflame like wildfire. It has more than tripled on dating apps like Tinder, Plenty of Fish, and Bumble reporting increases of 30% to 119%[i]. Social media sites like Facebook have added dating apps and experts have already predicted that the world is in for another baby boom which is due in about four to six more months from the time of this entry into the book (July-September 2020) which would be about nine to twelve months since March 2020, the announcement of the devastating global pandemic hitting the United States.

 

At 57 years old, upon hearing of people dropping off the face of the planet like flies, I began to ask myself, is this the way it is going to be? I’ve always known that more difficult times were coming as the time draws near for Christ to return, but somehow I guess I thought things would be different. I thought I’d have accomplished all that was in my heart to accomplish with God on this side of the sun. I began to look at my life and wonder what was missing. God has been good to me and I have no complaints, but the one thing that was missing in my life now, was a physical sacred romance. I truly felt that I’d not had the beauty, intimacy, and adventure that I sought in a loving relationship with a man.

 

As times became more desperate, businesses closing, unemployment off the charts everywhere, stock market tumbling in decline, food and household items scarcely on the grocery store shelves, airplanes nearly empty, and more and more people dying, I had only one desire. I wanted to make love.  Not have sex, I wanted to love and be loved by a man on earth who loved me uninhibitedly, undeniably, and untarnished. I did not want to leave this earth not having known what that was like. Was this even possible now? I’ve been divorced several times. The whole world is in a standstill and practicing for the first time ever in my generation  – a  term that I’d never heard before – social distancing. Standing 6 feet apart from each other, with the whole world on lockdown, how was I going to receive the blessing now? The blessing was to love and be loved by a man!

 

Once again, I had to enter into the bed chambers of God. This time, unlike before, I knew who I was. When I started writing my first book nearly 15 years ago, I didn’t know who I was. But this time, I had my Spiritual Identity intact. I knew who I was, whose I was, and what is my destiny. This time, I just wanted to be loved on this side of the sun by another human being, a male counterpart – a man.

 

It had been some time since I was this serious about being in a relationship. God taught me early in my thirties how to give those desires, hopes, and dreams to Him. Why was the thought of being in a relationship with a man coming back up now? I didn’t know if it was because of the pandemic and the feelings of uncertainly and sheer fright of losing so many people in the world at once. I knew then however, I had to go back into God’s secret chambers and find out from Him what was going on within me.

 

I was panicking. I wasn’t as afraid that the end time might be near. I was more afraid that I hadn’t lived out all of who God had called me to be on earth. I was thinking of every promise I had still in my heart to live out, like the promise of being made a happy wife. That wasn’t the only promise I wanted to live out. But I began to realize how much I hadn’t yet lived out my full potential. I quickly understood that my longing wasn’t just about being in a fulfilled relationship, but being more fully engaged with God in my purpose even during this tumultuous time on earth – becoming pregnant on purpose!

 

Is it possible to love God and be intimate with Him today during worldwide crisis in such a way as to be filled with His Glory, become pregnant, conceive and deliver his full promises even though the world is in chaos? What about when the delivery that you are believing God for is a healthy thriving relationship with a person of the opposite sex? Doesn’t that seem a bit shallow given a global pandemic and the dire situations that we are in today?

 

I’ve heard many stories about women and girls who were in relationships that they feared would be lost, so to keep the guys around, they would get pregnant. At 57 years old, I certainly was not thinking about a physical pregnancy. Now because of the situation the world is in, I was rushing to grab hold of all the remaining dreams, goals, and promises that I had from God, not knowing how much time we had left on this side.

 

[i] CNBC. Why the coronavirus might change dating forever https://www.cnbc.com/2020/05/25/why-the-coronavirus-might-change-dating-forever.html last accessed 7-31-2020.

 

Single Girl’s Dilemma

 

 

In heaven, human beings will no longer be single or married as we will be in a totally different bodily state. We’ll all be at home in our new bodies as one with God. Make no mistake about it: we may be at or near the end of this present world as we know it; but be of good cheer, we are being prepared for a different world where we are in the presence of God all the time fully satisfied content and at peace where time, distress, lack and tears are irrelevant. With the world around us seeming to prophetically line up to come to a head, we don’t know how long we have left on this side of the sun. This is – the only side where we can be in a relationship of the opposite sex with a person ordained by God to have dominion. So, how can we still enjoy and fulfill His purpose on earth? God has given us the ability to have physical and spiritual babies here, and share dominion with our earthly co-partners and counterparts on this side of the sun. On the other side, there will be no need for such relationships because there is no marriage or giving in marriage relationships in heaven.

 

So how do we who love God and want to experience His fulfillment on this side of the sun right now do that? With the time we have left here how do we continue to pursue our destiny, purpose, and dreams when so much is going on that we have no control over? How do those who wish to be in healthy happy thriving relationships do so in this world with so many changes affecting our daily lives? What about those who want to make a difference in the world through business, or those who wish to impact lives around the world? And what about the single moms who have children already – physical children? They want to raise productive successful children as citizens of this generation. How do they do that now with all that’s going on around us? How can the single mom prepare her children for what’s coming in this generation and the next? We don’t know the answers to all of what’s coming, but what we do know is that we – as single women and moms have to get ourselves together first before we can be and do what we’re called to be and do. I call that – REAL Womanhood: The Business and Calling of Being a Woman[i]. Our families, our children, and those who look to us for civility, stability, and so much more deserve to know that we’re going to be able to stand during these times no matter what happens. When the world is in so much turmoil and uncertainty, where is the single girl’s blessed assurance of God’s presence, power, pardon, promise, provision, and prosperity while we yet live on earth?

 

 

 

 

 

Psalm 65:4

Blessed is the woman whom thou choosest, and causest to approach unto thee, that she may dwell in thy courts: we shall be satisfied with the goodness of thy house, even of thy holy temple.

From The Author

 

Many years ago, a man of God being led by the Holy Spirit prayed and laid hands on me, anointing me for service. When he did that, I remember him saying these words which were very unusual to me. He said, “That which would have been unlawful.”

 

That’s how God, my Love, has spoken to me since I was about 30. My conversations, presentations, and journeys have always somehow led me to center on Christ and a particular focus of His will in a person, place, or thing, as it relates to being loved  and having intimacy with God.At the time when the man of God said those words over me, I did not know what they meant. As God began to deal with me over time, I began to notice a pattern. Whenever God would visit me, I would gain revelation of His Word, and God would give me understanding in very intimate ways. Many times, the Holy Spirit would use romantic terminology and that would peak my interest. I began to desire God’s presence around me more. I used to have the desire to be filled and loved by a man. So every time I sought God, He would always show me an example of what He was saying in physical terms of love and intimacy. I believe it is because that’s what I always wanted most in my life, to be loved by a man who would cherish me as Christ loves the church. So when I received the title for this book, Pregnant on Purpose, I was not surprised.

 

What is real love and affection? What it is, and what it is not, I believe, is the basis for all things on earth. From governments to industries to education – heck, even with our jobs. We will either love them or hate them. We either have passion for what it is that we do for a living, or we don’t. The same holds true for everything in life!

 

Everyone who creates something, or builds a business, or teaches a child, or raises family, or runs for political office, either loves himself and what he is doing or not. So to me, love is the basis for all things.

 

Think about it. If we had love, we wouldn’t need the police. Don’t you dare talk about defunding the police when there isn’t enough love in the world. We need the law on this side of the sun because we do not have enough love. We would not need to have a greener environment if we had love. We wouldn’t even need as many hospitals or doctors if love was our  foundation. There are numerous types of love, and the three types that I am referring to most often in this book are romantic love (eros), enduring love (pragma), and playful love (ludis) because most often these three are prevalent in relationships leading to romance and marriage.

 

God has never approached me in the usual religious ways; He has always been very personal. When I have had encounters with Him, they have always been intimate on His part, and I have always left pregnant – that is, with His seed growing inside of me.

 

Such is the case with this book. I’m believing God that will be the case with you too. Prepare to become pregnant on purpose and birth the brilliant plan God has for your life using His principles. Don’t presume you already know about these topics as you read this book; you don’t how God is planning on bringing the blessing to pass. Just be open to His leading as you read each short segment, and then complete the exploration questions included for you to ponder as you apply what you receive in this workbook.

 

Of course, we recognize that it’s not just single women who are affected by the trials, challenges, and turbulence in the world right now. Married women and girls everywhere are included within the central themes of this book. Even men will benefit from taking a thought-provoking look at the inner-man using the pondering questions and banner messages scattered throughout this book. If for no other reason than to understand and support the plight of their moms, wives, daughters, sisters, nieces, associates, friends and loved ones, men who desire to read this book and apply godly wisdom and love in the care of the women connected to them are tremendously appreciated, blessed, and we pray, rewarded by our Father, God.

 

Greater understanding, greater revelation, enlightenment, and clarity will become yours as you move in the direction of seeking God for yourself through these insightful topics. This is what happened for me, and I believe that every person listening and reading is included. YOU too can become spiritually pregnant, and birth God’s brilliant plan for your life!

 

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[i]     The phrase, “The Business and Calling of Being a Woman,” is the intellectual property and curriculum developed by the author.  REALWomanhood: The Business and Calling of Being a Woman logo and trademark are protected terms and may not be used without the written permission of Dr. Merle Ray, The Noble Groups.