REALWomanhood: Mama, What’s the Definition of a Good Woman?
Written by Dr. Merle Ray on December 31, 2018
Lesson 5 – Pondering Questions
Mama, What’s the Definition of a Good Woman?
Textbook: Spiritual Identity by Dr. Merle Ray
Instructions:
Please read section and then answer the discussion question posted above. Post your answers and comments below by the requested due date. Reply also to the comments posted by your Corporate Sisters.
Question 1: What is your definition of a good woman?
Question 2: How does this phrase speak to you: “When God becomes sexy, we give up our other gods?”
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Destinee Montgomery On September 19, 2020 at 9:08 am
1. to me a good woman is someone who loves herself, who respects herself, who loves God and has a relationship with Him. a Proverbs 31 woman.
2. When Got becomes sexy that means to me that I see no one but him, im attracted to Him and the purpose He has for my life.
Tanika Guidroz On September 14, 2020 at 10:51 pm
1. my definition of a good woman is one that is caring, kind, considerate, nurturing, supportive, help mate material. a lady who know who she is and able to be who she is around anyone.
2. when God becomes sexy to me; all the other gods dont matter. Its just like you have a few male friends, but you find that one who you spend all your time with, treats you like a queen, makes love to your mind body and spirit. You fall in love with that one. Everything about him becomes sexy, interesting, important. That is the same way with God but on a deeper level.
Teressa Simmons On April 26, 2020 at 6:41 pm
Question 2: How does this phrase speak to you: “When God becomes sexy, we give up our other gods?” This phrase speaks to me of my relationship with my husband. I am living, in love, with him. My husband is more exciting, approachable, and desirable to me than another brother. The same applies to my relationship with God. He is more exciting, approachable, desirable than anyone I have or will ever meet in my life including my wonderful husband of 34 years! If we are not careful, our gods can be our spouses, children, families, pastors, celebrities, status, careers, titles, money, opinions, ourselves, our failures, our secret sins and a host of other things.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:44 pm
You are so right! Awesome comments, Teressa.
Teressa Simmons On April 26, 2020 at 6:25 pm
Question 1: What is your definition of a good woman? My definition of a good woman is one who loves being, first and foremost, intimate with God. When this happens, God awakens within her both His and her desires to make a positive impact in the world for His glory and her joy! The two of them are an unstoppable team!
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:41 pm
Loved it! Beautiful work, Teressa!
Diana Williams On April 26, 2020 at 6:07 pm
My definition of a good woman would be one who honors God Almighty through the life she lives and portrays to others. She is one who seeks God for direction in caring for family, and those within her sphere of influence. She possesses the qualities of the fruit of the spirit. She is kind and loving towards herself, and recognize the value in others. A good woman is one who exhorts others above herself and values the giftings and uniqueness of each individual encountered. A good woman is one who’s desire is to please God and fulfill her God-ordained purpose and destiny.
2. When God becomes sexy is when your only desire is to be in His company and sit at His feet as He communes with us.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:45 pm
Beautiful expressions, Diana, and insights!
LaShawn Darthard On April 26, 2020 at 6:04 pm
1.) What is your definition of a good woman? When I think about a good woman – I think of one that desire to have a meaningful relationship with God. I think about one that knows she is a leader, whether that leader involves one at home, work, ministry, industry, community, government, etc…. therefore her character and word should be one that is true. That truth would include loving and caring. She would lead by example and consult God and wise counsel for direction. In all her flaws she is still striving for greatness in God.
2.) How does this phrase speak to you: “When God becomes sexy, we give up our other gods?” This phrase cause me to think about how I long to be with Him (Father God). Even when I’m around others I can’t wait to get along with just Him. Only He can quench the thirst and hunger that my soul and spirit desire. When I tried the taste of God I could confirm without a doubt that it was better than good. There’s nothing can compare with the intimacy I have with the Lord.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:46 pm
Loved this statement you made, LaShawn, “When I tried the taste of God I could confirm without a doubt that it was better than good.”
Yolanda Perry On April 26, 2020 at 5:49 pm
A good woman is defined by the Proverbs 31, Galatians 5:22, and her personal intimate relationship with God. The foundation of a good woman is the same the character that demonstrates will vary base on the situation.
When God becomes sexy we give up our other Gods. This means I would seek to please him and him only.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:47 pm
Good job, Yolanda!
Evelyn Wilson On April 26, 2020 at 5:48 pm
My definition of a good woman is a women of integrity strong morals and convictions dependable, caring, trustworthy, friendly,responsible, loving,selfless, genuine, honest, kind a women that can take what is giving to her money, love, seed life and multiplies it a women that seek’s God because without him this would be hard.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:51 pm
You’re so right, Evelyn!
Benita Edwards On April 26, 2020 at 5:36 pm
1. A Beautiful Confident Daughter of the Eternal Father God who knows Her Help Is IN Jehovah
2. You know, when you and this new guy meet, and you just wanna chat all the time? You’re waiting on the edge of your seat for his response. You hope you’re in place, at a good place, where you can talk without getting disturbed. Your pulse rate changes when he calls. Ok, yes, this happened to me not long ago, and I honestly forgot about all that giddiness. But I think it’s fun and exciting. Whoa, slow down! I didn’t ask for this, nor was I looking for it – this guy came to me. (It’s still quite questionable. Come on, wisdom). However, to answer the question with a question: do you see the correlation? Just wanting to be with Him (Father God). This guy is just a man, and my Father says not to have no other gods before Him (Exodus 20:3) and in verse 5 He tells us that He’s a jealous God. (I didn’t write all that just for me. I could’ve kept it simple, but enjoy! Now, I can read my sisters’ responses)
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:52 pm
Genius, Benita! You’re so insightful!
Dodie LaMott On April 26, 2020 at 12:18 am
God becomes sexy after spending quality time with him, this is when he reminds you how valuable, beautiful and marvelous you are in his sight. Through deep prayer and mediation he reveals he will supply all your needs, he want break your heart, he is your cuddle buddy so relax in his arms. His love never stop!
Dr. Merle Ray On April 26, 2020 at 6:56 pm
Amen, so so true!
Dodie LaMott On April 25, 2020 at 8:39 pm
A good woman is true, loving, kind, peaceful, graceful and have a heart for God and others. She have the spirit of a Proverb woman. This woman cares for her family and strives to do her very best.
Jacqueline Williams On April 25, 2020 at 7:04 pm
1. A good woman is one who is compassionate, one who cares for herself as well as others. A woman who is secure and free to be herself and allows other to be themselves. One who loves and puts God first and balances work, home, family and friendship well. One whose inner beauty radiates her outer being.
2. “When God becomes sexy, we give up our other gods”. So, true. In this season of the pandemic God has been showing me the idols (people/things) I have erected.The things that I spend more time focused on rather than on Him (self, church, people, education, money, self). I believe that God wants me to rest in Him and when I find myself worried or consumed with things, I have to stop and examine what is actually being erected. I give God the first fruit of my day, but how I send the rest tells me how sexy He is to me.
Kimberly Thompson On April 25, 2020 at 5:21 pm
Question 1: What is your definition of a good woman?
A good woman is one who loves God, lives for God and is led by Holy Spirit in every way, shape or fashion as she learns to totally yield to Holy Spirit. Because of this, her love, dedication and selflessness overflows to everybody connected to her and everyone she comes in contact with, on some level. Because her identity is defined by God and not the culture, traditions, or un-renewed mindsets, this fuels her actions, her confidence, her boldness, her ability to love and be loved, and allows her to walk in her strengths, looking to God, the author and finisher of her faith.
Question 2: How does this phrase speak to you: “When God becomes sexy, we give up our other gods?”
We get rid of our other gods which are the veils we hid behind – the lies, (the lights, the camera, the action of this world) which lead to the lack of our true identity. Discovering our true identity and reclaiming the original intention for us to know our God, who we are, our self-worth, our gifts and talents, everything God placed in us, and as we are in the process of falling in love with him, he becomes our focal point, and becomes sexy in the sense of being attracted and drawn to Him, and not the cultures of this world.
Deborah Stevens On April 25, 2020 at 5:05 pm
A good woman is one who knows whose she is (she belongs to God), who she is (she knows her God-given purpose) and that both of these represent where she is from and how she should operate in this natural life. This was far easier for me to write than I know that it is to live. We are bombarded with images and ideals all of our lives that without the firm foundation of Truth, we can find ourselves feeling less than what our Creator designed and have us chasing after decoys and counterfeits. Becoming this brave, confident, loving, compassionate, nurturing, intuitive, wise and generous person is not easy but it is available to all of us if we seek that personal and intimate relationship with God, our Father.
2. When God becomes our focus, He becomes our desire to serve. When He has our attention, we are able to focus on truth and let go of the veils that hide truth.
Jerrelyn Gaines On April 25, 2020 at 3:55 pm
Question # 1. – Since reading this book, I am learning how to define a real woman. Therefore, the way I am defining a real woman is returning to our creator, our first love and becoming one with Him. Developing his attributes of having a loving, caring, trusting, supportive, faithful, nature just to name a few.
Question # 2. -When God becomes sexy (attractive, exciting and intriguing), we give up our other gods?” I give up my fears, doubt and unbelief’s and place my trust totally in Him.
Barbara Crater On April 24, 2020 at 6:22 pm
1. My definition of a good woman is a female that through a process of time becomes happy with herself, and her life with God.
2. When God becomes sexy to me, I loose track of time and sense of everything around me.
Juanita Robinson On April 24, 2020 at 12:00 pm
1 A good woman is one who gives of herself to GOD, family, others and of course oneself.
Starting my day giving my FATHER the first fruits of my day sets the day for me to be a better individual embracing the Woman GOD created me to be and enjoying me.
2 GOD becomes sexy the more I yield my thoughts, the way I see things through HIS eyes and embrace life from HIS perspective oppose to mine. As I embrace more of HIM I can give more to others and myself.
brendab On April 3, 2020 at 8:12 pm
I’m sorry I put answer 2 with answer 1
Dr. Merle Ray On April 5, 2020 at 10:38 pm
No worries. I got it! Thanks for your feedback!
Dr. Merle Ray On April 19, 2020 at 9:19 pm
No problem, Brenda. Got it.
Evelyn Wilson On April 26, 2020 at 7:02 pm
When God becomes sexy we give up other gods.
When we began to spend time seeking God to really know him he becomes alluring and powerfully mysterious it make you want to know him better, We become attract and fascinated with who God really is his power, his anointing, his glory his character and love you become eager to spend time in his presence, you find that time in his presence useful and even necessary so he become appearing, attractive, interesting and sexy you fall in love with him become comfortable resting in him you wanting to spend more time with him you want to please him and not yourself you learn to trust him.
Psalm 37:4 Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. That’s when you let other gods go.
Jan Carroll On April 28, 2020 at 8:54 am
Very well said, Evelyn! I loved what you said, “you fall in love with him become comfortable resting in him you wanting to spend more time with him you want to please him and not yourself you learn to trust him.”
brendab On April 3, 2020 at 8:11 pm
1. To me a good woman is one , who loves herself, practice good Morales, like being kind to others, willing to lend a helping hand, if she’s married supportive and respectful to her husband, and looks out for her children’s best interest. 2. When God’ becomes sexy, I think when , He has your full attention, you can’t wait to spend time with him, His very presence makes your heart flutter, being with Him you forget about everything but Him, He draws your heart towards Him, you love everything about Him.
Dr. Merle Ray On April 19, 2020 at 9:22 pm
Brenda, great insight! Loved your response “His very presence makes your heart flutter, being with Him you forget about everything but Him…”